I’m sharing my story as a way to not only grieve my losses, but to also give life to them. In a “normal” pregnancy, you get to talk about how you found out, how you told your partner, your family. People ask how you’re feeling and how the nursery is coming along…you get to celebrate life as it grows inside of you. When you miscarry, you feel awkward sharing these  types of stories, if you even feel up to sharing them at all; you’re not looking to burden anyone else with the weight of your loss. And even though everyone has told you that they’re there for you and that they’re willing to listen (and you know that they all mean it), you still feel  uncomfortable subjecting people to your sad story. I’m an incredibly open book, and I’m here to just get it all out. This is, in part, how I heal. 

I also want to raise awareness for recurrent pregnancy loss/miscarriage and infertility. I want others to know that they’re not alone and that they can be as loud (or as quiet) about their experiences as they’d like. 

There are a lot of unknowns when it comes to recurrent pregnancy loss, and it’s my hope that by spreading awareness, we can encourage the research to find more answers. 

I don’t speak for all of those that have experienced pregnancy loss or infertility.  Please don’t assume that we are all open about our loss(es) or that we all grieve in the same way. If you’re wondering how to help someone who has experienced pregnancy loss or is struggling with infertility, just ask them, and be accepting of their answer.